We all have people that I will call contributors in our lives; Some contribute to your joy while others contribute to your pain. How do you know which group each person belongs to and which group do you belong to in other people's lives?

Here is a list of things to look for from the contributors to your joy;

They speak loving words around your name.

If people are speaking highly of you both in and out of your presence, keep them close, and make sure you return the favor.

They stick around during the good and bad times

When you have great news to share, they are receptive of the story and celebrate with you; When you have bad news, they are there to listen and help any way they can.

They accept you for who you are;

You can be yourself. You don't have to watch your words or actions because they know your core. They understand your spirit, and they respect it.

They make time to speak to you

A contributor of joy doesn't squeeze you into their schedule. They set aside time to see you because they value the relationship. So they make you a priority on their list.

They tell you the truth, even if you don't like it

Lies can make us feel better, but it's not always the best for us. A contributor to joy, will not be afraid to tell you the truth even if it hurts.

Now let's discuss contributors of pain;

Loved ones who only call when they want something.

A good relationship should be mutual, give and take. If you are putting in more than you are taking out, you should think twice about what people are asking of you.

They put you down or make fun of you in front of others.

You should never give anyone permission to make fun of you. If someone is a contributor to pain, they will sacrifice your happiness for a laugh.

You feel bad about yourself when you are around them.

If you are not feeling empowered and uplifted when they are in your presence, chances are they are not contributing to your joy.

They are not happy for you when good things happen

A joy contributor wants you to succeed in all that you do if you share your happy moments.

Let's not keep pain contributors in our lives. We will move forward in a better mental space if we exclude them. Increase your circle of love, with people that inspire and help you grow as a person. Are you ready? Let's Go!!!

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